How Not to Compare Yourself to Others

Hi everyone! For my last blog post, I want to talk about how not to compare yourself to others. I touched upon this a little bit in my first post where I talked about how social media can affect us mentally but I want to go deeper into this topic. I believe that everyone, or at least most people, compare themselves to others. It’s not a good thing, but it’s kind of hard not to, especially in our society. We tend to compare ourselves to people who we think are more attractive or more successful than us. I am guilty of this and it is something I used to do a lot. 

After my ex-boyfriend and I broke up, he started dating someone else and I couldn’t help comparing myself to her. I would constantly ask myself, “Is she prettier than me?” “Is she more fun to be around?”. These were just some of the many thoughts I had whenever I would compare myself to her. It messed with me a lot and made me feel insecure about myself. It even came to the point where I started to dress like her just to “feel better about myself”. Of course, I didn’t. If anything it just made me feel worse. So, I began to wonder, what can I do to stop comparing myself to her? Well, first I truly needed to believe that I was all the things that I thought she was. This was pretty hard considering I wasn’t too confident. I needed to truly believe that I was pretty and I was a good person. To do this, I found that doing things that I love, hanging around with people I love, and taking time for myself was what helped. It helped me develop a confidence in myself that I didn’t know I had. 

I know this advice can be pretty redundant and you’ve probably heard it a million times, but it’s true. Focusing on yourself is the most important way to build confidence. Although there are times where I do find myself comparing myself to her or others, I am confident now that I am all of those things. If anything, focusing on myself made me forget to compare myself to others because I was only busy worrying about myself. It’s still hard but it’s gotten easier because now I am confident that I have a lot to offer and don’t need to prove anything to anyone. And so do you. Thanks for reading!

P.S. I thought the image above was pretty cheesy but it goes to show that you can't really compare yourself to anyone because we're all diverse and unique. It's like the sunset and flowers, they're both beautiful but completely different.